I haven't done this enough, and that is to thank birth mothers/birth ladies/bmoms- thank you ALL! Of all ages, all races, in all countries, in all situations, thank you, thank you, thank you! I cannot even begin to comprehend how difficult it must have been to feel a child grow in you for 9 months, experience the miracle of life and then make a choice to not parent. The pain of not knowing if or how or when you may see that precious, amazing little miracle again must be almost unbearable. I can only imagine it being the equivalent of choosing to have your heart taken out and residing outside your body.
We know you are doing the best you can. We know you are trying. We know you just want the best for this child and you are their hero. You really are. As a birth mother, you should be proud that you made a difficult choice and you put someone else's needs before your own. That is what a hero does.
Heroes aren't perfect, no one is. Just know that you have made a difference in the world by your selfless act. Your biological child is in a stable loving home, and because you were responsbile enough to make an adoption plan, you have helped a child feel more secure because they are in a two parent home with lots of love and support.
It's easy to be selfish, especially these days. You have helped a couple grow a family, something they wouldn't normally be able to do. That is a miracle, in and of itself! You have done your best to care for this child, by finding someone else who will be better able to take care of this child.
Adoption is sometimes complicated, but it is also a gift. It is a gift of reaching out into the world and helping others. It is a gift of peering deep within our souls to discover who we really are. It is a gift of knowing we all have imperfections and none of us are perfect but because we're trying to do better, it will be okay. We are human, and this is life. Helping children is the priority. Let's help each other.
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